First Look or No First Look? Pros, Cons & How to Decide
First Look or No First Look? Pros, Cons & How to Decide
A Wedding Photographer’s Guide for Couples in Montreal & Across Quebec
If you’re planning your wedding and wondering whether to do a First Look or stick with tradition and see each other at the altar — you’re not alone. As wedding photographers based in Bromont and serving Montreal and the Eastern Townships, we’ve helped dozens of couples navigate this very decision.
There’s no right or wrong answer. It comes down to your timeline, your priorities, and how you want your wedding day to feel and sound.
In this post, we’ll break down the pros and cons of doing a First Look — and share real-world tips to help you make the decision that’s right for you.
💑 What Is a First Look?
A First Look is a private moment where the couple sees each other before the ceremony — often in a quiet, beautiful spot chosen by your photographer. It’s an emotional, intimate pause in the whirlwind of the day — and it can totally reshape your timeline (in a good way).
✅ Pros of Doing a First Look
1. More Time Together on Your Wedding Day
Instead of waiting until the ceremony, you get to share more of the day side by side. For many couples, the First Look feels like the only moment they get truly alone together.
2. Calms the Nerves
Seeing each other earlier in the day can ease anxiety and help you feel grounded before walking down the aisle.
3. More Photos, Less Rushing
A First Look gives you time for couple portraits, wedding party photos, and even some family shots before the ceremony — which means more photos and less pressure later in the day.
4. Better Light for Outdoor Photos
If you're having a Montreal or Eastern Townships wedding in the fall or winter when the sun sets early, a First Look ensures we capture stunning natural light before it’s gone.
5. A Private Emotional Moment
Some couples find it easier to express their emotions in private rather than in front of all their guests. A First Look allows for authentic, emotional reactions without an audience. You can even use this time to read some private personal vows.
🚫 Cons of Doing a First Look
1. Breaks from Tradition
If you're dreaming of that classic “walking down the aisle” moment as the first time you lock eyes, a First Look might take away from that buildup.
2. Earlier Start Time
You’ll need to be ready earlier in the day — hair, makeup, and getting dressed will need to start several hours before the ceremony.
3. Timeline Pressure for Guests
If you're hoping to get family photos done early, you’ll need to coordinate with your family members to arrive before the ceremony, which can sometimes be tricky.
🙋♀️ Who Is a First Look Best For?
Couples who want a more relaxed timeline
Those who want lots of portraits in great light
Anyone feeling nervous about the ceremony
Winter or late-fall weddings with early sunsets
Couples who want a private emotional moment before the crowd arrives
✨ Alternatives to a Traditional First Look
Not ready for a full First Look? Try one of these ideas:
First Touch – Hold hands around a corner without seeing each other
Reading Vows Privately before the ceremony
First Look with Parents or Bridesmaids instead
📸 From a Photographer’s Perspective...
As wedding photographers based in Bromont, we’ve had the privilege of capturing beautiful celebrations across the Eastern Townships, Montreal, and all over Quebec. We love both approaches — a First Look offers more flexibility with lighting, portraits, and creativity, while traditional aisle reveals often lead to some of the most emotional and powerful moments.
At the end of the day, the most important thing is choosing what feels right for you — your vision, your timeline, and how you want to experience your wedding day.
💍 Final Thoughts: First Look or Not?
If you're still unsure, think about what matters most to you. Is it sticking with tradition? Having more time for photos? Feeling calm and connected? There's no one-size-fits-all — so just listen to your heart.
📅 Want help building your perfect wedding day schedule?
Check out our Wedding Day Timeline Tips — a guide designed to help you plan your day with photography, with a relaxed flow in mind.
📸 Still looking for the right wedding photographer?
We’d love to help you plan a wedding that’s beautifully captured and uniquely yours. You can download our free checklist on How to Choose the Right Wedding Photographer — it’s filled with smart questions to ask, and what to look for in someone who will document your big day.